BIO: Prema Suma is an adoptee from Mumbai, India and currently resides in the suburbs of Chicago, Illinois. She currently is completing her paralegal studies certificate. She holds a Bachelors degree in Justice Studies and as published an article about her adoption experience in a peer reviewed journal.
How Does It Feel To Be Adopted?
I am 27 years old and was adopted by a same race Indian family at the age of 6.5 months from Mumbai, India. I arrived in the United States when I was 8 months old. According to the written records, my mother was 19 years old and had studied up to the 10th grade. My mother and father were engaged to get married and had known each other for two years. My father was unaware that my mother conceived a child and he went away without telling her about his location. Unable to locate my father, my mother relinquished into the care of my adoption agency 2 days after I was born.
I spent the early few months of my life first in a children’s hospital and then into the care of my foster mom. At two days old, I was transferred to a children’s hospital and was diagnosed with Septicemia. Records indicated that I had a high temperature and had febrile convulsions. I am not sure if I could have survived, but I am happy that I did.
In December 2011, I traveled back to India to learn about my narrative. I was able to meet my foster mother who cared for me until the time my adoption was finalized. I was able to meet the social worker who did my adoption paperwork, which was also very special. Although I am not reunited with my mother, I have such a deeper understanding of the Indian culture and I have the ability to understand why she decided to relinquish me for adoption. Her love and strength will always be with me.
I feel that we are handed certain cards in life. These cards were given to us because I feel that some higher Source knows that we can handle the challenges that life throws us. Adoption is just one of my life cards, a situation in which I had no control over. Although there is nothing I could do about the circumstances of my adoption, I realized that I now have choices and have options. I choose to live my life with love and positivity. My given name at birth is Suma, which means flower and my adoptive name is Prema, which means love. I feel that I am a flower that blooms with love.
Prema Suma, Adult Adoptee